9 Oct I asked my boyfriend to marry me! It was a total surprise and he had no clue that I was going to propose! While we were on holiday in Europe, I took him to Northern Ireland and popped the question while checking out some castles on the Causeway Coast. I can't believe we're engaged! WHAT!. Nothing can be as devastating in a relationship as discovering your boyfriend is gay. If you suspect that your boyfriend is gay, it can be hard to decide whether to ask him or just ignore the signs. In any relationship, remaining truthful to each other is important. Therefore, if you're convinced that he might be gay, then the best. OK, so, you're gay, you want to find a partner and eventually a husband; someone with whom to share your life. However, you just can't seem to meet the right guy or make the right connection. You keep coming up empty-handed, stymied in your efforts, no matter what you try. All of this talk of legalized marriage just seems.